Patience is that elusive fairy that taunts us by flying in and out of our reach as IT sees fit with no concern for our needs.
It is necessary in our lives to develop and nurture patience because we will need it in every area. We will need patience in our social life. We will need patience in school. We will need patience in the work world and we will need patience, most especially, when dealing with other people, no matter the circumstance.
We each tend to believe that our way of thinking and our way of doing is the right way-perhaps the only way, but we would be mistaken. In life, there is no 100% right way of thinking and acting with regard to everyday circumstances.
We all come to our decisions and our actions from our own unique perspective. We learn from our parents, our teachers and our peers. All of this input guides us toward our own way of thinking. To think that our way of thinking is the only way would be to negate all the input from parents, teachers, peers and even strangers that brought about our thoughts, opinions and actions. So what do we do when we disagree with others?
We remember that we must allow others the same rights and freedoms we, ourselves, claim as our own. We must allow that everyone has an opinion AND the right to it. Even when the next person’s opinion or action offends us or goes against the social norm, it is not our place to judge or condemn. We must use patience.
Here, we can get into a deeper issue of what is socially acceptable, etc., but for the purpose of this article, we center on that basic thing that keeps us from ripping pillows apart and throwing remotes across the room.
With patience, we don’t attack the other driver because they don’t know how to change lanes or park properly. We remember to drive carefully and keep our eyes open. We remember that those people do, eventually, receive their due.
With patience, we don’t slap that coworker because they are lazy and leave work for everyone else. We remember that we must be responsible for ourselves. We must remember that our responsibility is to do our OWN job to the best of our ability.
With patience, we don’t assault our children because they are stubborn or disrespectful. We remember that they are simply finding their way as every child does. We remember they learn a great deal of their actions from us.
With patience, we remember that we live on this rock with billions of other people-each of us with our own personality, our own opinions, our own deficiencies, our own talents and our own mistakes.
Each of us must be allowed to be the person we are [excluding extreme behavior] without fear of judgement and condemnation.
Patience reminds us that we are all one family of humans. Patience allows us to live together and patience reminds us that we don’t know everything. We do not know the future and we are not meant to be perfect.
Patience is the key to a calm life so take a deep breath, let it out slowly and move forward.