The Hardest Thing

The hardest thing to do is, most times, the best thing to do. 

In life, we are faced with so many troubles, tribulations and challenges. Normally, we are emotionally invested with these moments so that our judgement is a bit compromised.  We tend to act and react emotionally making a sensible judgement difficult at best.

We don’t want to hurt another’s feelings.  We don’t want the conflict.  We don’t want the difficulty.  We don’t want the responsibility of making the necessary decisions.  These roadblocks make the decisions and the results nearly impossible to reach, let alone accept.

But the reality is we MUST face the difficult parts of life. We have no choice.  We MUST make difficult choices.  No one else can make them for us. 

Yes, our choices and decisions always affect others in some way, but in the end, we must do what we can for ourselves.  In the end, we are the only ones who have our own best interests at heart.  That does not demean the people around us, it is simply a truth.  Your loved ones will care for you and for what happens to you, but we are humans and it is human nature that our BEST interest falls to us alone. 

Others will either tell you what they think you want to hear, or they will tell you what would work for THEM.  They may mean well, but they have not lived your life. They have not walked in your shoes so it is not possible for them to know what is fully best for you.  So you must try very hard to put emotion aside and make choices

Yes, it is true that, occasionally, your necessary decisions may seem to hurt another, but that is rarely the reality.  The truth and what is right does not hurt in the end. 

The right thing to do can seem to be harsh but when thought through, you will see that while it may not be pleasant, it is necessary.

DISCLAIMER:  This post is off the top of my head and based on a personal experience as all my posts like this will be.  I do not claim ANY professional training or knowledge. I am NOT a doctor or psychologist in any form or manner.  The posted material is simply my thought and opinion.

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2 Responses to The Hardest Thing

  1. Mike Warden says:

    Very thoughtful writing! It reminds me of the last days of some of my family members. Sometimes a person is unpleasantly surprised by the side of a person that is revealed during trying times. As you say, they sometimes say what they think you want to hear. And then the time comes to put one’s money where one’s mouth is…or not. It took me a long time to get over some of those things.

    • stanfordnl says:

      I have always thought that a person’s true character comes out when they are facing a dire moment. That is the moment when they say what they mean. I think that it takes us all a long time to work through things that are said..or not said.. at different times in our lives. It is never easy, is it?

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