When you lose, don’t lose the lesson. ~Dalai Lama
When you lose the battle, you must remember-it is only the battle, it is NOT the war. You cannot win EVERY battle, but you WILL win some. Those battles you lose, however, are the ones to remember.
When you lose a battle of any kind, there is a reason for that loss. It can be the battle of a relationship. Perhaps that relationship did not work. Why? What happened? When losing that battle, it is important to examine the “why” of that loss so that you don’t repeat your part in the loss.
Your loss could be in your job. Why did you lose out? Was it something you said? Something you did? Something you didn’t do? There is always a reason, and in that reason, there is always a lesson to be learned.
John F. Kennedy said, “Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.”
Why? Because to forget what was done is to never learn from it. You don’t remember your enemies to maintain a grudge, you remember them, and what happened, so that you can learn to not repeat your OWN mistakes.
Finally, to maintain a grudge or a desire for revenge only hurts you. You are the only one who bears the remnants of the hurt and the stress from such things. Let it go. Remember what YOU should and should not do, but let the rest of it go.